My oldest has been going to a lot of weddings lately. She’s 25 – it’s that season in her life – and it seems like she’s going to a wedding nearly every weekend these days. Last December she went to one small presbyterian church and neither my daughter nor her friends knew where it was located. I was happy to give directions, but I had to ask, “isn’t there someone else – like a friend who’s a member – you can ask for directions?”
“No”, my daughter said, “Nobody is a member of this church. Their home church isn’t having any weddings this December. The church leadership decided it’s too much trouble to have weddings around all their programs.”
So… the pastor and church leadership made a choice to prioritize annual programs over helping a young couple make a life-long commitment.
I think that’s a little backwards. But then, I’m a marriage counselor; I’m more than just a little biased about things like this.
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That’s the most ridiculous thing I’ve read all day … no …. all week … maybe all month.
I think it’s time for that church to take another look at their priorities.
I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks so.
Oh, you’re not alone, not by a long shot.
How about a church I heard of which mandates that the bride & groom engage the services of particular wedding planner, who happens to be the wife of a staff member?
I am not shocked by what has come about at this church. Sounds like there might be some history behind the decision. Maybe we don’t know both sides of the story. However, we always need to reach and minister to people. Sometimes a decision like this has been made by a staff member but has not been communicated to the church leaders (pastor, elders,etc.) I have seen that done before…….being a church staff person.
David,
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