The Singlehood Phenomenon: 10 Brutally Honest Reasons People Arent Getting Married
The Rodgers list 10 Brutally Honest Reasons People Aren’t Getting Married:
1. Skepticism about Love and Marriage
2. Lack of Faith in God’s Provision
3. Unresolved Issues From the Past
4. Confusion About the Rules
5. A Poor Understanding of the Purpose of Marriage
6. Fear of Getting Hurt
7. Wanting the Perfect Mate
8. Not Dealing with Prior Heartbreak
9. An Unbalanced Emphasis on Career
10.Concern that My Marriage Will Fail
Each reason gets its’ own treatment in a chapter of The Singlehood Phenomenon. Each chapter begins with a definition of the premise and a real life example from the Rodgers years of experience. Each chapter ends with sections on Making it Practical: What About Me?; For Further Thought; and Growing Your Faith.
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Do they actually use the phrase “soul mate”? The thinking behind that phrase — the idea that there’s one and only one perfect spouse out there for me, and it’s up to me to find her — feeds right into their reason number 7.
Michael,
You caught me; I haven’t actually read the book. The Christian self-help genre is so large (and growing quickly) that I read reviews and newsletters in order to keep up with what’s popular. (I started doing that in order to have some idea of what my clients were reading. The books listed in the sidebar are ones I have read.)
That said, two reviews and one newsletter article all used the phrase “soul mate” (one of the reviews is from the publisher). I assume it was used as a negative example; but I don’t know for sure.
I’m with you; I wish the phrase “soul mate” were not a part of our cultural vocabulary.