I’ve often heard pastors and counselors say couples should take the word divorce out of their vocabulary.
I understand what they mean: making threats isn’t good for any marriage.
But, never thinking about divorce or mentioning the word isn’t a good idea. The reality is that with no-fault divorce laws written the way they are any one of us can find himself divorced whether we want to be or not. Keeping the word in my vocabulary means I’m aware that it is possible to mess thinks up so badly my spouse will leave me.
A little healthy fear (what the professional literature refers to as constraint motivation) is a good thing.
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A little fear is, indeed, a pretty good motivator.
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Bob,
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