Ask The Counselor
An anonymous woman left the comment below on this blog. I started to delete it because the comment was completely unrelated to the post on which it was left. But it’s a good question; I thought I take a stab at a response. I don’t get it. How can a woman be mad at a [...]
Fewer Couples Getting Married
Oklahoma has long had a high divorce rate. There are several reasons for that: poverty, low education, and a young age of marriage are all factors in divorce. They are also, unfortunately, part of our state’s culture. Another factor, not often mentioned, is that we believe in marriage. Other states may have lower divorce rates [...]
Why I Blog
Yesterday’s post – Choosing a Therapist – has a lot of good advice for finding a counselor for you or a family member. There are many good suggestions of questions to ask a therapist before you make that first appointment. Too many to ask in a 5 minute phone call. And five minutes is just [...]
Choosing a Therapist
I did a quick internet search and found lots of advice on how to find the right therapist/counselor for you or a family member. Some of the best advice is below: From Psychology Today: Here’s a brief checklist of qualities to look for when seeking a counseling professional: Do you feel that you have a [...]
Emotional Intimacy: Time
Earlier I spoke about how to combat the relational drift that sometimes occurs in marriages. I wrote that maintaining friendship in marriage requires three things: time, reciprocity, and transparency. Most adults divide their leisure time (time not spent on the job) into three areas: family time, couple time, and time just for me. At the [...]
We Just Drifted Apart
So just drift back again. Okay, I know it’s not that easy. There’s more to it than that. But there’s also more to the drifting than forces beyond a couple’s control. “We drifted apart” is another way of saying we stopped paying attention to the parts of our relationship that nurtured emotional intimacy. We stopped [...]
Helping Your Child with OCD
Some strategies for therapy just aren’t helpful. Oh, they’re fine for the therapist that works at a research oriented clinic with a large multi-disciplinary team who can specialize in only that one problem area, but not for the vast majority of us practicing in settings where we need to be generalists. If you’re a parent [...]
