Younger than You Look?
I’m married to an incredible woman who has always appeared younger than she looks. People often remark, upon hearing we have a 25-year-old daughter, there is no way she can have a child that old. No one has ever said that to me. Ever. I started turning gray in high school. When you’re a therapist, [...]
Child Abuse and the Church
From the Baptist Press: A minister at the center of a church-wide controversy at Bellevue Baptist Church has been terminated for sexually abusing his adolescent son 17 years ago. In addition to recommending Williams’ termination, the investigative committee also concluded that “Bellevue was ill-prepared on several fronts for handling the Paul Williams matter.” The church’s [...]
Why I Hate the Lottery
It is not because this form of gambling takes money out of the local economy. Nor, is it that playing the lottery is a tax on the mathematically challenged. It is not even the attendant moral and law enforcement issues. Those are all reasons I dislike the lottery. I hate the lottery for reasons that [...]
Just for Fun
What about Divorce
Because I’m busy today and because I have more readers now than I did a year-and-a-half ago, I’m reposting this short essay on divorce. I was asked the other day if I was committed to the concept of “divorce is never an option”? I rarely give a simple, straight answer to that question. Not because [...]
Marriage Myths
Love Conquers All. Amor vincit omnia I use the Prepare when doing pre-marital counseling. And I spend a lot of time on the scale that measures “realistic expectations” for marriage. This first myth would be someone who has unrealistically high expectations of marriage. (There are those who have a very dim view of marriage: I [...]
Marriage Insurance
Diane Sollee (Smart Marriages) commented in her newsletter about this article in the Press-Enterprise. Auuuugh. Here it is again. Another example (article below) of adding fees to marriage license applications to fund domestic violence shelters. Grrrr. This is being done in jurisdictions across the country and is well-intentioned but extremely unfortunate and misguided. Married couples [...]
We’ll File This One Under…
…just when I thought I’d heard it all. I saw a client a few weeks ago who told me her husband was having an affair. She didn’t become suspicious until she found some correspondence from the other woman. She should have become suspicious when her husband said, “God told me you were going to die [...]
Religion, Commitment, and Divorce
From Divorce and Cohabitation, an article from Family.org: Does religious faith have any impact on marital success? Not if you believe the typical spin of an oft-cited Barna research report. We often hear that divorce rates among people who identified themselves with certain Christian denominations and lived in the Southern Bible Belt states had higher [...]
Gray Divorce
I noted this article – Divorce on the rise for older people – a few weeks ago. “Gray Divorce” is the label given to the trend of older Americans seeking divorce. The divorce rate among Americans older than 65 grew from 6.7 percent in March 2000 to 8 percent four years later, according to U.S. [...]
