Jack, Jack, and Fred
There’s been a lot written this week (at least in the blogs I read) about men. Whether it’s why men don’t go to church, or how to be a real man, or the difference between men and women, lots of people seem to be struggling with how to help males learn to be men. Much [...]
Men and the Church
There’s an interesting conversation going on among the blogs I read. A thread is running through some blogs; others seem to be addressing similar subjects independently. It all started (for me) with this post from Rhett Smith. Rhett, a minister to college students, picked up on an article in Maxim magazine (he was very careful [...]
Psychological Spelunking
One of my clients is a young man whose wife sent him to therapy. Desperate to save his marriage, he complied. “How can I help you?”, I asked during the first session. “I don’t know”, was his answer. After a few sessions his wife agreed to come with him to a session (not for marital [...]
Men, Psychology, and the Church
“As the influence of psychology has grown, it has become a big deal in the church — we no longer have a God of Abraham, Issac, and Jacob, we have a God of “wholeness.” I’m not surprised the men are staying away. Sorry ladies, but for the most part, we don’t have a clue whether [...]
Affair Recovery: A Roller-coaster of Emotions
In a blog I’ve been reading, We Survived An Affair, the writer speaks of experiencing a roller-coaster of emotions: “For the next few weeks, I bounced back and forth between fury and self-loathing.” And then later, “In the 2 or 3 months immediately after (discovering the affair), I was two people. One was at peace [...]
We’re Hiring!
Christian Family Institute needs to add to our support staff! We have an opening for a full time person (Monday through Friday; 8am to 5pm). The position includes direct patient contact in the form of scheduling and managing phone calls. Email Terri for more information. (Please don’t call: we’re short-handed!)
Affair Recovery: Asking for help.
Continuing my perusal of We survived an affair, I was struck by the husband’s statement that he “just didn’t know why” they were having so many problems. We had been having serious trouble for over a year. Really, longer than that, but I had known about for a little over a year. After our son [...]
Six Basic Questions
Rhett Smith, a college minister in CA, recently attended a seminar where the questions of how/why you do your quiet time was discussed. He writes: 1) What is the purpose, or what is it that you want to achieve through your quiet times? 2) How often do you do your quiet times? What length? 3) [...]
Affair Recovery: The Goal
I’ve been reading an anonymous blog (We Survived an Affair); so far, it’s been an intensely personal story detailing the inner struggles of a man whose wife had an affair. It’s now four years later and We Survived states: “Today, we have a good life together and love each other very much.” He elaborates, “But [...]
Affair Recovery
I found an interesting blog over the weekend: We Survived an Affair. The writer is anonymous, male, an attorney, and blunt. But I don’t think the story wouldn’t be much different if a woman was writing and her husband had the affair. I like the hope with which he begins his story: “It’s been almost [...]
