The one thing that has changed in my counseling practice over the last 30 years is technology. People haven’t changed much, but the stuff we use has changed dramatically. It is supposed to make life easier… but it doesn’t.
I help adults, adolescents, and children who are struggling with:
- internet porn
- online affairs
- video game addiction
- poor life/work balance
- internet addiction
Poor work-life balance. There was a time when a job started at 8:00 am and ended at 5:00 pm; not any more. Bosses and coworkers think nothing of sending email and texts at all hours of the day and night. Spouses complain in couples therapy that they feel they are competing with – and losing to – their partner’s smart phone. Some people describe a sense of anxiety or loss when they are temporarily without their phone, computer, or tablet.
You don’t have to unplug or become a Luddite; you may need to learn better interpersonal boundaries (with your family) or even some negotiating skills (with your boss).
Internet pornography and Sexual addiction. The internet seems tailor-made for sex. What may at first appear like a harmless little secret can become a major marital conflict. When virtual sex interferes with or takes the place of the real thing, a marriage is no longer healthy. A simple definition of ‘addiction’ is to continue in the same behavior in spite of negative consequences.
Social Media Affairs. Relationships that began innocently on Facebook or Twitter can quickly become much more than they ever should. I can help people decide where the boundaries are between friendship and affair.
Parenting and Technology. Cyber-bullying and sexting (or other inappropriate sexual behavior) are just two of the issues I help parents with. Video game addiction, poor academic achievement, and limited social interaction are other issues I address with kids and parents.